A breakup with a loved one can be a painful experience especially if your relationship has lasted for a long time. But, you can still restore your ties.
Foremost, find out the actual cause behind the breakup. Be very honest with yourself and determine if both of you, or if one of you is responsible for your separation. Your breakup may be due to extreme arguing and fighting, constant physical and sexual involvement, conflicting goals and values, abuse suffered by one of you, pressures of long-distance relationship, or poor combination of personalities.
The next thing to do is to find out the reason why you want your relationship back. Do you want your ex-lover to return to you because you really loved that person? Or maybe you just like the idea of having a partner. If both of you really loved, respected each other, and are happy being together, restoring your relationship may be a good idea. But if both of you have irreconcilable differences that have caused so much stress in your personal lives, it is better for you to remain separated. Take some time to think about these matters.
If you have decided to woo back your ex-lover, try to find out if he/she is currently dating someone. If that person is unattached, try to develop your friendship. However, you should do this gradually and carefully because that person may harbor some ill feelings to you. If you feel that you have regained your amity, you can invite him/her to sporting events, parties, or even strolling with friends.
It is important to focus on preserving your self-esteem. Always stay positive in order to feel good about yourself. Remember that you are solely responsible for your own happiness. Correct bad habits and mistakes that may have caused your breakup.
If you feel that your friendship with your former flame has already developed into an intimate level, you can open up to him/her in restoring your commitment to each other. Nevertheless, do it calmly and gradually. Tell him/her in a straightforward but considerate way. If you have made past mistakes, feel free to apologize. You should listen and accept his/her your point of view on making another try. Give that person sufficient time to make a choice.
After some time, if he/she is no longer interested in a relationship with you, respect his/her decision. Tell them that you still love them unconditionally and move on with your life. - 31368
Foremost, find out the actual cause behind the breakup. Be very honest with yourself and determine if both of you, or if one of you is responsible for your separation. Your breakup may be due to extreme arguing and fighting, constant physical and sexual involvement, conflicting goals and values, abuse suffered by one of you, pressures of long-distance relationship, or poor combination of personalities.
The next thing to do is to find out the reason why you want your relationship back. Do you want your ex-lover to return to you because you really loved that person? Or maybe you just like the idea of having a partner. If both of you really loved, respected each other, and are happy being together, restoring your relationship may be a good idea. But if both of you have irreconcilable differences that have caused so much stress in your personal lives, it is better for you to remain separated. Take some time to think about these matters.
If you have decided to woo back your ex-lover, try to find out if he/she is currently dating someone. If that person is unattached, try to develop your friendship. However, you should do this gradually and carefully because that person may harbor some ill feelings to you. If you feel that you have regained your amity, you can invite him/her to sporting events, parties, or even strolling with friends.
It is important to focus on preserving your self-esteem. Always stay positive in order to feel good about yourself. Remember that you are solely responsible for your own happiness. Correct bad habits and mistakes that may have caused your breakup.
If you feel that your friendship with your former flame has already developed into an intimate level, you can open up to him/her in restoring your commitment to each other. Nevertheless, do it calmly and gradually. Tell him/her in a straightforward but considerate way. If you have made past mistakes, feel free to apologize. You should listen and accept his/her your point of view on making another try. Give that person sufficient time to make a choice.
After some time, if he/she is no longer interested in a relationship with you, respect his/her decision. Tell them that you still love them unconditionally and move on with your life. - 31368
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